Yes, in the past I've dated people that weren't up to specs in either intelligence or warmth, just because I felt it was my duty to be uncritical or something. It's horribly aggravating and draining as you're continually adapting yourself to THEM, as if the problem is all on your side. And it's... horribly disrespectful to yourself, really..
Anyways, since this fight we have been trying to just move on with life...but I feel like it has put him two steps back in the relationship standpoint. Usually I get calls and messages about how he misses me or something of that nature, but lately I barely get an I love You out of him. I think he is aprehensive of being all lovey-dovey again because of recent events, and I can understand that. Its just very hard for me because I want everything to be normal again.
I always feel this I wanna get out of this or, life is much more than this couple life. I just can't like it. Sometimes I wonder whether it is my limitation as I see that many people 'seem' happy.
The only way I would find this creepy or stalkerish is if I expressed no interest after that first contact and the guy continued to pursue me anyway..
It's such a turn-off..
Jesus Lady, I've seen some real winners come through these subforums, but having them hang out? A couple of other ones recently did the same thing. Like them,you are redlining on the Cruelty Gauge..
the way I was treating you wasn't the best to be doing.