Please help. I deperately need advice about my relationship. I am involved in an almost five year relationship, with my boyfriend who I love deperately. I am mostly happy with my relationship, in that we get along great, always agree and enjoy a great sex life. The problem is that my boyfriend keeps cheating and talking to other women behind my back. It first started the year we got together. I suspected him of cheating with a girl from a few states away from where he attended high school. He would take frequent trips there to "visit family" but I always had my concerns. When I would confront him he would deny anything and say he loved only me. After much snooping I found undeniable proof about his betrayal. When I confronted him he was so sorry, said she meant nothing, and that he only wanted to be with me. I took him back... and then found out he was still seeing her! After much fighting we got back together,the other girl got pregnant and married to someone else and our relationship went back to being great. Until I found out, that he gave his number to a girl he met at work and was flirting behind my back.( Let me mention he works as a doorman in the building were I live!) I confronted the girl and she stopped calling. Well our relationship has been going on this way for years. Everthing will be great and then I will see texts from a new strange girl on his phone. I confront the girl and him and it stops, but in a few months it's a new girl all over again. I even came back from vacation last summer to find out he had a fling with a girl in his car the night I came back after I read his email. Well that was almost a year ago and I was finally starting to trust him again. He went to a local bar/club in our town about two weeks ago with his best friend for a guys night out and I didn't think much of it, until I noticed new late night phone calls. He now locked his phone so I can't check it but I saw his phone bill and that he was calling and texting this girl several times a day and night. ( Sometimes while I was in bed with him watching TV!) I called the girl who confirmed he met her at the bar, told her he didn't have a girlfriend and she said that he was pusuing her. I asked him to stop speaking to her and he said he was sorry and would. I then found out from his phone bill that he did not. When I texted the girl to ask her to please stop, she told me it's not her fault that my man wants her. He told me he would stop speaking to her but I don't believe him. He now changed the password on his online mobile account so I can't check. He says that he loves me with all his heart and he doesnt know why he does these stupid things. I don't know what to do. I love him so much but feel I deserve better. I just want to cry all the time. I don't want to waste five years and he's my best friend also. WHAT SHOULD I DO? I also want to get married but he always says he's not financially secure enough. I can't tell my friends or family because they can't understand why I'm still with him. They don't know about all the girls only the first few. Let me also say that I am an attractive, sweet, college educated woman working on my MBA. I cook, clean, do his wash and have sex whenever he wishes. I know I can have probably any other man but I only have eyes for him. Let me also add that we have lived together for three years, during which I paid the rent and bills!( and no I'm not ugly.I'm actually a very humble but model pretty girl that turns heads every day!) Please offer any advice you may have. I just feel so awful right now. Thanks..
Funny that you mentioned this. She actually agreed to meet up for drinks before she gave me her number. Said she couldn't do it the week prior but could this coming week. I texted her yesterday just to remind her of what she said last week. But like everyone has already said, she most likely lost interest/found someone else..
i need a life guard like this.
it's all kevin's fault.
You should kick him to the curb if you are not happy. I know it's hard but you know in your heart what has to be done. I hope you can find the strength to do it!.
Women will think your a pig if you say "would you like to come over to my place for some penis" and now they don't find you attractive when you are nice.Geeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez i give up..
They are: the way he scratches his nose while inhaling (it sounds like he has allergies and could use a tissue), and some of the facial expressions he makes while thinking (rolling his eyes around while cringing his face and such)..
However, I'd suggest that one cliche may be applicable here: it's unlikely that you will lie on your deathbed and wish you'd worked more. If anything, you'll wish you'd lived more. As long as you can cover your expenses and have enough discretionary income to pay for the 'nice to have/do" goals as well as a large enough buffer to cover for most eventualities should things take a turn for the worse, I'd ignore your mother's advice and do what you feel is best. I agree with Ruby, it's your life and your business..
But more importantly, I have found every person that has been flakey to have emotional issues. They cannot even commit to days/times to see someone as that simple act is too much commitment/overwhelming for them (they usually have an avoidant attachment style). Just food for thought..
You cannot get bored with another person...only with yourself. A boring person will always get bored with himself and blame others..
loving life baby !!..
maybe you missed the part where he touched her first by shoving her up against the wall. that is assault..
You sound like a decent guy for worrying about leading her on..