A week ago my husband of 9 years told me he was going down to the bar to shoot pool with his buddy, the next day I came to figure out that he had really been to a strip club. It turns out he spent $140 at this all nude strip club on beer, tips, and 4 lap dances (all with the same stripper) He lied about where he was going and continued to lie until he knew he had been caught (I found the jeans he had been wearing, stuffed halfway into a full dirty clothes basket, reeking of womens perfume) At this point he admited to going there and after much yelling, told me he had paid for 4 lap dances..
Don't get sucked into the revolving d*cks talk with him. It's a smokescreen, I promise. Have a clear understanding of your needs, hopes, and desires. While I may be plain spoken and to the point here I am not suggesting that you interact with him in a brisk, businesslike manner. Far from it..
IME, no women do not take online dating seriously. I was on Okcupid for about 7 months or so, never got a single reply and definitely no dates. It was then that I realized that online dating was a big waste of time for men (especially the free sites). Oh well, you live you learn..